Conversations were easier. Time together felt natural.
Now it feels different.
Small disagreements turn into major issues. You feel misunderstood, unheard, often invisible to the person who’s supposed to know you the best.
One of you shuts down. The other pushes harder. Both of you end the night frustrated.
It’s not that you don’t care about each other. It’s that you don’t know how to fix what’s happening between you.
Trust feels thinner. Communication feels broken.
If you could change one thing, you just want to feel like you’re on the same team again.
The reactions are automatic. The conversations loop endlessly. The two of you keep landing in the same place without meaning to.
Couples therapy is about slowing things down so you can identify those patterns in real time.
Once that happens, you can create the changes you both want.
“Shaq is always a kind listener. He’s attentive and present. He makes me feel heard and understood. I feel that he is facilitating my growth and healing. He makes space for me to talk about what’s bothering me and upsetting me, without letting me spiral out of control, and gives me techniques and coping strategies I can use. Incredibly helpful.”
Verified client, age 25–34 • Review shared after session 5 with Shaquil
In session, we identify the pattern right while it’s happening between you.
We look at how each of you responds during conflict, what triggers certain reactions, where communication begins to break down, and how assumptions and interpretations impact your interactions.
Once the pattern is clear, we shift it.
You’ll learn how to:
This isn’t about choosing sides or deciding who’s right. It’s about helping both of you see the dynamic you’re caught in – and giving you the tools to change it together.
Conflict won’t disappear.
But it will get smaller, shorter, and easier to repair.
You’ll hear each other the first time.
You’ll catch the pattern before it catches you.
You’ll walk into hard conversations knowing the two of you can come out the other side still connected.
That’s the work.
That’s what’s possible.
If your relationship has felt off, tense, or disconnected, you’re in the right place.
Don’t keep spinning in the same arguments.
Schedule a free initial consultation.
We’ll talk briefly about what’s been going on, what you’re both hoping to change and whether working together feels like the right fit for your relationship.
Change doesn’t happen overnight. But it can start with one conversation.
Call me today: (530) 215-1647
Session fees are discussed during your free consultation call. We accept both private-pay clients and Partnership HealthPlan of California insurance for eligible clients – in-person in Redding, CA or via telehealth anywhere in California.
The first session is about getting a clear picture of what’s going on and what you’re hoping to change. I’ll ask questions, you’ll share what feels relevant, and by the end you’ll already have some initial understanding of your patterns.
My goal is that you walk out of the first session with something useful – not just a feeling that someone listened.
Yes. I offer telehealth throughout California. If you’re located anywhere in the state, we can work together via secure video session. For clients in Redding, in-person sessions are also available.
The easiest way is to schedule a free 15-minute consultation. We’ll talk briefly about what’s going on, I’ll answer any questions, and we’ll figure out if we’re a good fit. No pressure. No commitment. Just a conversation.
You've been in the loop. You know it's not working.
There's a way to move through your day with more clarity and follow-through.
Not for the version of you that has it together. For the version of you that's ready to figure it out.
Reach out today to schedule your free consultation and start building a way of thinking and responding that works for you.